How To : Love Yourself | Shay and Ambi

Hi everyone! Its Ambi, back for another week of the How To Series. This time I’m going to be talking about loving yourself. Not your family, friends, or even boyfriends/girlfriends, but instead putting yourself first for once.

I am one of those people who always put others first- I always try and help people and give advice. But sometimes I forget about ME, and I’m sure many others do too. Although it might not seem a priority, but it is really important to take a day off and think about yourself. If you do this every once in a while or if not more often than that, you will become less negative towards yourself. Others will see this improvement in you as well.

So take a break this weekend and pamper yourself. I know how I’d do that- I’d take a long relaxing bath with some lush products and bubbles. Do what you love doing- find the you who isn’t altered by what you think you should do. Care less about what others think and just go for it. Like for me, I really like reading. I haven’t read as much these past few years because sometimes I get scared that people will judge me, but forget about that! Just do what you want to do.

You will feel better as a whole if you take spoke time out of your day to think about yourself- less stressed, less pessimistic and more happier! I think everyone needs a little reminder once in a while to do this, which is why I chose this weeks post to be based on it. Especially with Valentine’s Day coming up, if you feel a little lonely maybe its best to just be with your friends and family, and most importantly, yourself.

Love yourself.

Because in the end its your body and your decisions, and no one should affect that.

Be sure to read Shays post on my blog next Tuesday, and I’ll see you next week on friday! And if you have any requests or suggestions on what I should talk about, comment below.

Love Ambi xx

How To: Build your confidence | Shay and Ambi

The How To Series is a series created by me and Shay where we give advice. I post on Shay’s blog every Thursday, and Shay posts on my blog every Tuesday. The tag is HowToSeries so if you put that in you can see all the topics we have discussed so far. If you have any questions, please ask either me or Shay. If you would like to request a topic for me to write about, please ask in the comments section below, because you guys are the people who are going to read it so I need your opinions! 

Hi guys! It’s Ambi and I’m back again for my half of the How To Series. This week I’m back with a topic that might be useful for a lot of you, which is why I chose it: How to build your confidence.

You need to be confident to be able to do lots of different things throughout your life: some important, like getting a job, or some not so important but are basic life skills. If you’re quite shy, like me, you won’t get anywhere in life.

I had an assembly on this a little while ago about being confident, and the teacher told a story: lets call the two people A and B. A and B both apply for a job. They both have the same results, so the job applicator calls them both in for an interview. Person A is very confident- as soon as he walks in he has a big smile on his face and he is able to talk the applicator with ease. Person B is the opposite- quite shy, not looking into the applicator’s eyes, and talking about their achievements as if they’re ashamed.

Guess who got the job?

Yeah, you guessed right. Person A did.

Although this story is simple, it just shows how your level of confidence makes a difference. And the sad thing is, this happens all the time. Thousands of people get the sack because they can’t speak about their success confidently. It’s one of the most important things people look for, because having confidence will help you with so many aspects of a job.

But what my teacher didn’t explain, was how to BUILD your confidence. All he said was that having confidence is important, but he didn’t explain how you could get to that level. I was, and am still shy in front of people I don’t know very well. I get scared sick of public speaking, and it gets to the point where I can’t stand talking to people I don’t know.

However, I have been building my confidence over the past years. I have been doing musicals where I am one of the main characters, and I have done a few public speaking sessions. Although I hated every single minute of it, I’m glad I did them because now I’ve gotten a weeny bit better at speaking in front of people.

So the best way to build confidence is to practise, practise, practise. Put your hand up three times a lesson. Speak to someone you don’t know very well every day. You won’t go from being really shy to being extremely confident: you have to build yourself up to it.

I hope that was a useful post.

From now on I will be posting my half on Fridays, so look out for my next post next week, and check out my site to see Shay’s latest post.

Ambi xx



How To: Run long distance | Shay and Ambi

The How To Series is a series created by me and Shay where we give advice. I post on Shay’s blog every Thursday, and Shay posts on my blog every Tuesday. The tag is HowToSeries so if you put that in you can see all the topics we have discussed so far. If you have any questions, please ask either me or Shay. If you would like to request a topic for me to write about, please ask in the comments section below, because you guys are the people who are going to read it so I need your opinions! 

Hi guys, it’s Ambi- back again for my half of the How To Series. This week I’m going to be talking about running long distance (as I’m sure you guessed from the title but oh well XD)

Long distance running has been a huge part of my life for the most of four years. When I was younger I didn’t realise how good I could be at running. At my primary school, they only let us do sprinting and therefore I didn’t think there was anything more behind running. But once I entered secondary school, we did a cross country which was 2k. I wanted to try my hardest and I’m glad I did because I came fourth out of over a hundred girls, which made more people notice me. I did two other school cross countries after that, coming fourth and second, and I also took part in cross countries racing all the schools in my area.

You might be thinking, what good is running? Well I can tell you- it’s amazing for all types of things! If you jog regularly, you will get so much fitter. Your legs will get stronger and you will benefit in other sports as well. What other people forget, is that you don’t have to run for long. If you run for fifteen minutes for say twice a week, it WILL do you good. In a well known magazine that I read called Elle, I read an article about a women who for every single day of 2015, she ran a mile. For an average person that would take ten minutes, so it’s not that long at all. But the outcome is astonishing.

And now we come to the most important part: How to actually run long distance. I might do a how to sprint in another post but I think I’m more experienced in the long distance area which is why I’m focusing on that for now.

I find that there’s two parts to get better at running.
Firstly, there’s the planning stage. What is it that you want to achieve out of running? Do you want to get fitter generally? Would you want to do a run for charity at the end of it? Whatever it is, you have to think about your running schedule. If you haven’t run a lot before, it’s best to start of with a low distance or time. Whatever you do, don’t start off by running ten miles or something stupid, because you won’t get anywhere and you’ll hurt yourself. Instead, over time, slowly build up the time you’re running for. For instance, for the first week run three times for ten minutes each. Then if you feel ready, move up to three times a week for TWENTY minutes each.

Secondly, there’s the actually-going-out-and-running stage. I think this is the hardest part for everyone- getting off your ass and actually doing something. But if you have a running schedule that I talked about in my first point, you’ll be more likely to be motivated and follow it. I find that going running with someone who is as good as you is good because you can learn techniques that they use, and you’ll be competitive which will make you get better quicker 😉

Some tips that you should take into consideration when starting running is:
– Drink lots of water! Drink a glass a while before you go for a run, and atleast two glasses afterwards. It’s essential that you do so.
– Pace yourself. Don’t start out running really fast because you’re going to have no energy to carry on. Instead, pace yourself so that you’re going at the same speed throughout the run.
– Pace your breathing. I find that this will help you a lot in terms of pacing yourself in general. I’m told by people to breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth but I tend to just breathe in and out using my mouth. Every two paces I make I breathe in, and every two paces, I breathe out. This way, it sort of becomes a rhythm.

I hope you enjoyed reading that, and if any of you are runners or want to start running, please let me know!

Also as I said in the beginning please help me out and give suggestions for what to talk about.

Ambi xx



How To : Revise | Shay and Ambi

Hi guys! It’s Ambi from The Ambivert. Me and Shay are doing a collab called the HowToSeries where we give advice on everything! On tuesdays, Shay posts on my blog and on Thursdays, I post on Shay’s blog!

So today I thought I’d talk about revision.

We all have to do revision of some sort in our lives. Particularly teenagers my age are entering the world of stress and panic which are exams. But its not only us. People of all ages revise a variety of topics, and many people can’t cope or get panicky.

Ways of revising

  • Revision notes. Now this is my favourite way of revising, especially for important exams. It does take some time but it is a fact that when you write something down you’re already half way there in learning it. Also, if you keep all your notes in a book, or a folder, it will keep things neat and tidy.
  • Flash cards. Flash cards are good to do for the night before the exams because you can break down everything and write only what you’re finding difficult to learn. The thing about flash cards is that they’re pocket size which means you can take them anywhere and flick through them in your spare time.
  • Post- It notes. It might sound odd but if you post notes all around your house/bedroom it’ll make you remember things easier. Also it’s fun making them and working out where to put them 🙂

Top tips

  • Organise yourself. When I do revision, I always plan a week ahead to keep myself organised and make sure I get everything done and learnt before the exam. Even if it’s the night before your revision, just make a to do list for what you have to cover. That way, you won’t be lazy and you’ll have a motivation that you didn’t have before.
  • Don’t panic. When you’re stressing out, you’re not in the right mind for revision and you will get less done.
  • Don’t cram. Some people have told me that cramming helps them but I disagree. Cramming will make you worried and you’ll rush learning vital information in order to get everything done. Instead, space it out over a period of time.
  • Don’t revise 24/7. Trust me, there’s always time to do something else when you’re not revising. When you’re having a break, don’t just sit on your phone and do nothing. DO SOMETHING! Even if it’s something small like going to the cornershop, it’ll make you feel more relaxed. I like to jog in my breaks, but everyone’s different so do something that makes you feel productive.
  • Don’t work too late. Or if you do find that revising in the night is better, stop when you feel too tired. That leads me on to my next point,
  • Don’t overwork. Sitting at your desk for hours on end is bad for you physically and mentally, so don’t do it. Instead of basing your plan on the amount of hours you spend doing revision, focus on what you want to get done. Then, you won’t overwork.

I hope that was somewhat useful, and remember these are the things that help me so you might be different.

Check out Shay’s blog post here, to read about how to cope with bullying. *it’s really good!*

Ambi xx