The Social Media Blog Tag!

I was nominated by the lovely Ally to do this tag! I had never heard of this tag before, so at first, I was a little confused, but it’s actually a really interesting and cool tag so thank you very much Ally for the nomination! 😀

 

Rules

  • Thank the person who tagged you
  • Choose a blogger or blog to nominate for each category and explain why you chose them
  • Tag others to do this (up to you how many)

Whoever I select for each category is the blogger I nominate to do this tag!

 

Categories

INSTAGRAM – A BLOG WITH A DESIGN YOU LOVE

Zara because the layout of her blog and everything about it, to me, looks professional, clean and simple but artsy. She’s also good at photography so that adds to the amazingness that is her blog design!

 

FACEBOOK – A BLOG WITH A FRIENDLY BLOGGER

Starr because she is the sweetest person EVER! Go comment on one of her posts right now; she’s genuinely such a friendly and honest person! 😀

 

TWITTER – A BLOGGER WHO COULD WRITE JUST 140 CHARACTERS AND YOU WOULD STILL LOVE THEM

Haru because her posts aren’t that long anyway and she keeps me drawn in so I’m sure she could write a simple 140 characters and make me smile or laugh. 😂 Her drawings are great and I just love the way she writes because it’s relaxed and amusing!

 

YOUTUBE – A BLOG WHICH KEEPS YOUR ENTERTAINED

Wamby because she’s freaking hilarious! She always knows when to use the perfect gif and always has a great and witty response to pretty much everything!

 

SNAPCHAT – A BLOGGER WHO’S UPDATES YOU CAN’T WAIT FOR

The Orang-utan Librarian as I used to be a bookworm so a small, buried part of me is raving and getting crunk whenever I read her posts! Her book-related posts are also, generally, interesting and I’ve learnt about different points of views and ‘angles’ to write in that I didn’t even know was a thing.

 

TUMBLR – A BLOG WHICH IS VERY DIVERSE AND HAS VARIETY

Cee since she writes about a range of things. A lot like my blog, there is not one specific category for her blog. She posts what she wants to post whether that be poems, anxiety in teenagers, her goals, etc.

 

PINTEREST – A BLOG WHICH IS FULL OF CREATIVITY AND INSPIRATION

In A Messy World because she’s always posting deep and meaningful posts, that make me think a lot. I think she’s gone through a lot of tough times and situations and she’s learnt from that and grown a little wiser each time and she shares those lessons, morals and memories on her blog.

 

So, that’s it! 🙂 Again, anyone I chose for the social media categories, you’re nominated to do this tag, if you choose to do so!

 

-Shay

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Tears Are Okay.

Crying is seen as a weakness.

 

I find a lot of people prefer hiding their emotions and tears, which is also fine, but reinforcing to others that it’s a sign of weakness. I also find that amongst boys, it’s seen as weak, ‘gay’ and ‘girly’.

 

Today I’m going to tell you why it’s not.

 

It’s going to get a little science-y but I hope it’s not too confusing! When you’re stressed and depressed, your hypothalamus, in your brain, basically instructs the pituitary gland (the ‘master gland’ that controls secretion of hormones) to order the adrenal cortex to release cortisol. Cortisol is, basically, released to combat and deal with stress.

However, excess cortisol or high levels of cortisol can be really damaging, for example, it can cause:

  • High blood pressure (could lead to strokes)
  • Insulin resistance (can cause type 2 diabetes)
  • Carbohydrate cravings (provoking you to binge eat)
  • Fat deposits on face, neck and belly
  • Suppressed immunity (weakened immune system)
  • Loss of muscle mass (so actual physical weakness)
  • Loss of calcium from bones (again, physical weakness)
  • Loss of cognitive function (e.g. reduced memory, problem solving, etc)

 

Crying, however, releases excess cortisol in your tears.

The behaviour we do and the bodily functions we contain are there for a reason, no matter what you believe.

If you believe in Darwin’s theory, then you know that everything that aids us in survival will carry on in future generations and our genes that help us succeed in survival and reproduction will get passed on. Crying is something that has been passed on to EVERYONE so it’s not there for no reason. Why do you think we feel like crying when we’re sad? It doesn’t happen for no reason!
If you believe in God, then surely God would have put the behaviour of crying in you for a reason.

I could go on.

 

Emotional crying is there for a reason. You don’t need to suppress it.

At the same time, do not wallow in your tears forever because too much of something, as you probably already know, is bad. Even vegetables.

 

And if you don’t trust me, trust Stephen Sideroff, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at UCLA and director of the Raoul Wallenberg Institute of Ethics. He stated that stress “tightens muscles and heightens tension, so when you cry, you release some of that” and crying “activates the parasympathetic nervous system“, which is involved in resting your body and digestion, “and restores your body to a state of balance.

 

So if you think crying is weak, remember that not crying can actually weaken you.

It’s okay to cry. 

 

-Shay

Crazy Things I Believed as a Child!

There are a lot of silly and weird things I believed when I was little. I complied a list of a few I could remember and I thought they were too funny to not share.

 

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FedEx Vans

I used to see FedEx vans everywhere, when I was younger, but I didn’t know what they were used for. There was one right outside my house that stayed there for ages. It had been there for years. Inevitably, my little imagination assumed they were spies and were watching people. I mean, who really knows…

 

Growing A Plant

I used to watch Strawberry Shortcake. In this particular episode I saw, she was explaining what you needed, to grow a plant, in three steps. Number one was sunlight. Number two was water. And because it was frEaKIng Strawberry Shortcake, she suggested for number three that you needed love. SO, I was in year three/four, I think, and we were learning about plants. The teacher asked our entire class to raise our hands if we knew what you needed to make a plant grow. Two people had already said the sun and water and nobody else knew anymore so I thought, Hahaha these ignorant fools. I put my hand up and with extreme confidence, announced you needed love to make a plant grow. Spoiler alert, that’s actually wrong and I’m suing Strawberry Shortcake for my emotional damage. Don’t trust that hoe.

I’ve found kids TV shows say a lot of weird things, for example, I once overheard a care bear say “I feel as tired as a nipple after feeding time”.

 

Sleeping Beauty’s Birthday

I got this personalised Disney Princesses story book for my birthday, which is the 16th of October, where I was a character in three different stories (Cinderella, The Little Mermaid and Sleeping Beauty). You’ve probably already heard of something like this but it’s a company that puts the child’s name in the book to make it seem like they’re going on the adventure with whatever the main book characters of the story are. At the beginning of the story, it states it’s the 16th of October and that it’s Briar Rose’s (Sleeping Beauty) and my birthday. So for years and years, after getting that book, I thought Sleeping Beauty had the same birthday as me and I’m not gonna lie, I think it was only last year, at my big age of sixteen, that I realised that the story was personalised for me and every child, who gets that story, will have the same birthday as Sleeping Beauty and it wouldn’t be the 16th of October. You don’t know how many people I’ve told that I have the same birthday as her.

 

The Wind

My mum, for some unknown reason, told me if I made a weird or rude face and the wind changed direction, my facial expression would stay the same forever. I used to be terrified that I would accidentally make the wrong face when I was playing outside while windy.

 

The Land of Orange Juice

When I was in reception or year 1 (about ages 5-6), my best friend came to my house for the day. We were eating lunch and my mum left the room. My friend split her orange juice on the table and I said “Uh oh.” I don’t know why I did this but I started telling her the butterfly effect of what she had done. I said that the orange juice would slowly spread across the whole table and then to us, which would make us stay stuck in the same position forever, and then it would cover the floors and then the house and then the garden, and our parents and eventually, the entire world and then everybody on it and then the Universe and we would all be stuck forever. She cried.

 

Were there any crazy things you believed when you were younger or even recently? I’d love to hear them! 😄

 

-Shay

The Island of Misfit Geniuses!

I remember when I did Media Studies at GCSEs, we had to research about game shows and how they became so popular in the UK. We studied Mastermind, a BBC television quiz, and we studied Fred Housego, who was a taxi driver. He won the game show in 1980, which brought a wave of shock to everyone, because he was just a taxi driver. This impacted people’s mind-sets on what it meant to be somebody clever and the future of game shows. People, from all walks of life, obtained more confidence and hope, after Fred Housego won Mastermind, as it proved that you didn’t have to have a degree to be intelligent.

“Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is Stupid.”

-Albert Einstein

 

There are different types of ‘Genius’, which is something, I’ve found, a lot of people can’t come to accept or understand.

 

Having taken primarily science-y subjects for A levels, I’ve worked with, socialised and made friends with a lot of other science based students, since we are centred around the same areas of my school, we learn similar stuff and we all have similar goals, like working in medicine or labs or with telescopes, etc. And although all of that has taught me a lot and made me even more excited about learning new things in science, there have also been a lot of little discoveries I’ve made. A lot of these science-orientated people can be quite arrogant. I’m not saying all of these people I’ve met are but there have been a good share that are.  They’re so pinned on their own ideas, for example, the big bang theory is the only way that the universe began. And that’s okay to believe that. I believe that. BUT, a lot of those people do not accept the fact that others think differently. They’ll believe that science is the only way, nothing else is true. I guess you can dismiss that point, considering some people are just strong about what they believe is true. Sure. However, I’ve also found that these science-y students think they’re entitled. Of course, if you’ve put in the hard work, you’ve studied, you’ve done your research, you’ve done every titration experiment and every calculation with great accuracy and care, you can have bragging rights and you can show off because you do deserve it. And obviously, you’ll know more about a subject you’re specialised in than someone who isn’t specialised in that topic. But that doesn’t mean you’re better than everyone else, just because you know the position of equilibrium or how to work out standard deviation.

I’m just basing this idea of people feeling entitled on science-based students, because that’s who I’m most surrounded by but I know this applies to other people as well like musical geniuses, etc.

 

I think the education system and the way society works, in general, is to blame for this, but I’ve noticed a lot of people comparing their intelligence by asking “okay, so then what grade did you get in maths?” to see who’s smarter. Grades are another thing that do not define intelligence. Academic intelligence is measure with grades. Being academically intelligent or not does not define whether you’re a genius or not. There’s actually a 0.2 correlation between IQ (intelligence best measure) and grades.

 

With all this rambling and venting, I’m trying to explain that not everyone needs to be a scientist or a straight A student or watch plays all the time to be somebody intelligent. I feel like nowadays, there’s a stigma around people, who choose to lead a more ‘chill’ creative path or work in other jobs like retail and services, assuming they’re not as clever, as their intelligence is not defined in society. It’s almost as if all these other smart people, from all walks of life, other than people involved in STEM (science, technology, engineering and maths) related careers and choices, are chucked onto this island of misfit geniuses because their ‘genius’ doesn’t fit in with what people think being a genius is. And that’s a shame because I’ve met a lot of people that are incredibly intelligent but don’t think so because they work in clothes stores and didn’t get good grades in school and society claims that means you’re stupid, which I think is a stupid claim.

 

I want anyone reading this to understand that you do not need to be a Darwin or Newton to be a genius. Referring back to Einstein’s quote, you just have to find and work at the thing you enjoy. Not everyone can be good at everything and not everyone is good at the same thing. If that was true, society and the world just wouldn’t work. Despite the people that hate differences, we do need difference. 

You can be and do whatever you want to be and still be a smart individual so long as you work hard and maintain a positive attitude that you’ll succeed.

 

-Shay

Ocean’s 8 Women Empowerment!

Ocean’s 8 is an upcoming film, where character Debbie Ocean, sister of Danny Ocean (played by George Clooney in 2001 Ocean’s Eleven) devises a great plan for a huge heist at the New York annual Met Gala, which just passed, recruiting a team of specialists, to steal a necklace worth more than $150 million.

It’s not the incredible heist planned at the Met Gala and their target that makes the film so great. It’s the empowerment of women and the amazing stars involved. The famous faces include Sandra Bullock, who plays Debbie Ocean, Rihanna, Mindy Kaling, Sarah Paulson, Helena Bonham Carter, Cate Blanchett, Anne Hathaway and Awkwafina.

 

Ocean’s 8 is an all female reboot of Ocean’s Eleven. This action-packed film is all about girl power, which strays from the norms and conventions of action films, particularly those about heists and devising intricate complex plans. This is due to the fact these types of films generally have a male protagonist, as well as a primarily male cast. There tends to be a woman, who may contribute, but are there to be the love interest or stop the man from making irrational decisions, because “women keep to the safe side” and “aren’t as smart or physically fit to be part of the main team”.

 

Consequently, because of this all female reboot, there have been a lot of sexist trolls but Sandra Bullock stated that they’ve “got some feisty women that will fight right back.” I think, in a way, this is also empowering as it shows young girls and other women to stand up, be feisty and fight back, instead of conforming to people who say “to just ignore it”.

 

Sarah Paulson said that “it was extraordinary to look around the room and see Cate Blanchett, whom I’ve worked with twice now, with Sandra Bullock, Rihanna, Mindy Kaling, Helena Bonham Carter, Anne Hathaway and Awkwafina. It was a very empowering place to be – and it was really fun…we have a text chain going that’s one of the most epic things. If my phone was stolen, it would be eye-opening!”

Mindy Kaling said “It’s funny, because when Ocean’s Eleven was filming, you’d read about how it was such a convivial atmosphere on set and that George Clooney would play pranks on everybody,” she continued. “It made me realize that when men go away to shoot a movie for two or three months, they leave their families at home. But women take their families with them.” She added that she not only got to know the stars, like Sandra Bullock, but also their partners and kids, asking questions about how they manage and balance work and motherhood.

Sandra Bullock explained on Ellen that for the most part, they filmed together and “that’s the best part about this whole thing, is that we just got to love on each other and get to know all these different personalities.”

With all this being said by just a few of the actresses, I think it goes to show and provide evidence that women work really well together and can have a lot of fun in the presence of one another! In the wise words of Cyndi Lauper, girls just wanna have fun! 😄 And to quote Sandra Bullock “women get along”. I’ve seen far too many times in films, books and TV shows where women fight and argue, and this is prominent when there is a cast of primarily men. The tension between women presented in the media just causes harm as it reinforces to women that it’s the behaviour that they should be portraying and that there should be tension.

From my almost 18 years of being a girl, I can tell you that yes, girls can argue, the same way any type of person argues, but the majority of the time, girls get along and not just that, they boost each other’s confidence and encourage and empower each other, even without doing it directly. This may just be me but I feel the most confident when I’m with my girl friends and even other girls.

 

I think Ocean’s 8 reinforces and strengthens women in liberating and supporting one another.

Furthermore, it could be the start to a future of the appearance of more women in actions films! What do you think?

 

-Shay

Say “No” to “No”s.

At a young age, we respond to the question, ‘what do you wanna be or do when you get older?’ with confidence and enthusasim, an attitude like you can conquer the world and anything contained within in.

And then when you do get older, you’re told no. No, you can’t get be a politician. No, you’re not good enough to play football. No, boys can’t be ballerinas. No, you just can’t. We’re told no.

Sometimes, those “No”s come from yourself. I always told myself that I couldn’t work in science because I wasn’t smart enough and it wasn’t  a low self esteem kind of thing, I just accepted and believed that was a border I couldn’t go past.

 

I’ve seen this advert by Samsung, several times, which inspired me to write this post. It’s really inspiring and it’s about people being told what they can’t and shouldn’t do, etc. It’s a great advert but I still refuse to ever get a Samsung phone.

 

I was told that I couldn’t get higher than a grade 4 in maths GCSE, by my teachers. I was at a level 3 at the time and instead of conforming to their No’s, I said yes. And I ended up going up three grades to a level 6 (equivalent to a B).

My psychology teacher  told me I could probably get a D/C and should be ‘realistic’ with my goals for my grades. I got an A.

 

And here’s the little cherry on top with whipped cream.

I requested my teacher to mark my chemistry mock paper in front of me, believing I’d be strong and brave enough to pull through and also thinking her judgmental and harsh criticism about my mistakes would scar me enough to force me not to make the same mistakes again. Pretty good logic, right?

As I stood beside her, awkwardly, while my two friends sat a few meters away at a lab table, she began flicking through the pages, shaking her head and scribbling down with her red pen. She kept writing little comments like “really?” next to my answers and scattered a ton of question marks everywhere. Everywhere.

I just stood there, using all my strength to restrain the freaking river about to pour out my eyeballs, popping with veins. I mean, I didn’t even know what was going on when I was doing the test, how am I supposed to suddenly realise what my thought processes were and answer those goddamn red question marks.

This younger boy (I think year 9/10) came in at one point and asked my teacher what he got in his test and she started discussing with him his grade. I zoned out at this point but I remember the end of their conversation where he pursed his lips and asked “so I got the highest in the class.” My teacher puckered her lips and said “yes.” They locked eyes and I’m pretty sure they were having a moment. I just looked back and forth at both of them.

I swear to god if that boy had longer hair, he would have strutted away whipping it to the side. I could have gagged.

Anyways, at the end of her marking, she looked at me and said, “Shay (well, my full first name), most students are bad at a few topics and good at others.” She paused. “You’re bad at everything.”

I was speechless. How the hell am I supposed to respond to that. 😂

 

In a one to one in the sun, the next day, she explained to me that “I need to stop going out.” Stop going out? What is out?

She even drew out a graph for me, on the front of my paper, comparing my over-achieving-goody-goody-A-student progress in. year. SEVEN to my progress now, in year TWELVE. I don’t think it takes rocket science to figure out that A levels are just a tad, just a smidge, JUST A TEEENY WEEENY bit harder than year seven. You have to remember words like squamous epithelium and nucleophile. She even told me I was going to pass chemistry but I was going to be disappointed.

At the end of marking my paper, I asked her what my grade was. She thought for a while, flicking through the paper, “not a good grade.”

Cool, I thought, “but what grade?”

“An E, maybe a D.”

I found out that my grade was actually a high C, which is actually really not bad at A levels. I mean, I wouldn’t want a final C for my AS grade but the way she made my mock grade out to be made it seem like I’d have to resort to working in the world’s oldest profession…if you know what I mean.

 

Those are small examples about school and grades and I know most people reading will be doing exams and are currently at school (whether that be high school, University, etc) so I feel like those experiences may be relatable to you and also motivating. You may feel limited and people may tell you that you are limited but that isn’t necessarily true and I hope my experiences can prove that to you. I’m not the highest achieving student at school. I’d say I’m about average, nothing extraordinary, but I could still get to where I wanted to be so trust me, you can too.

 

Other examples, besides school experiences, include times where I have been asked to be quiet because I’m “too opinionated”. I’ve been told, indirectly, that I can’t be funny because I’m a girl. I’ve been told I’m small and weak. I’ve been told a lot of things and a lot of “can’t”s and “no”s.

 

Use those “No”s as a way to motivate yourself, prove them wrong because trust me, it feels so good! It’s kind of like revenge but more morally right?  😂 And it feels really good to do things people say you can’t do. Even if that person is yourself.

It takes hard work to prove people wrong but in the long-term it’ll be worth it. It’s a few months of work and a little bit of pain and a hell of a lot of stress for achieving the things you want. And it’s true, some people have to work harder than others. People in developing countries have to work very hard to even get the chance to be at a point of achieving the ability to go on to do secondary education. We get that for free. In fact, we have to go through with it.

 

Whether it be a marathon you’ve been told you can’t do, a test you’ve been told you can’t pass, whether it’s a condition you’ve been told you won’t be able to cope or manage or get past, do what they say you can’t do.

Work and push hard, prove people wrong and make yourself happy. Sometimes it’s not even about doing things to change the now, it’s about proving to people you can deal with whatever is happening or comes your way and nothing will crush you. You know yourself better than anyone, you know what you’re capable of. Others don’t. Be strong.

Say “No” to “No”s.

 

-Shay

Yanny Or Laurel?

 

Let’s discuss the greatest debate of this century!

Yanny or Laurel? DUN DUN DUN!

 

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, person who lives under a rock, click here right now!

Okay, so I wasn’t going to talk about it but I am so sick of seeing ‘Yanny or Laurel’ everywhere. 😂 I’m just kidding, I’m not a hater, I think it’s cool and I love that it’s the new ‘the dress’ but it’s absolutely everywhere! Also the memes are funny.

There have been so many people sending the audio to me, asking me what I can hear. I’ve seen so many YouTube videos popping up in my feed, stating they’ve explained it. When I was writing my upcoming Ocean’s 8 post, I googled ‘girls support girls’ so I could get a cute picture to add in and a picture with the words ‘Yanny or Laurel’ literally came up.

So, I decided to be part of this fiasco.

 

Firstly, I can slightly hear both of them. However, I can mainly hear “Yanny” (well, I actually hear ‘Yammy’ but whatever, my opinion is invalid😂). I did hear ‘Laurel’ at some points though, for example, my cousin sent me a video of her playing the audio and I heard ‘Laurel’. I then replayed it and heard ‘Yanny’. I think that goes to show that my brain literally can’t make a decision and it’s not just my own stupidity.

 

The actual word is ‘Laurel’, being said by an opera singer, a member of the original Broadway cast of Cats. Even though, ‘Laurel’ is what is actually being said, whichever one you can hear is technically right. Unless you hear like ‘Quanisha’ or something like that…then get help?

Being a science enthusiastic, I decided to delve deep (well, like ankles deep) into the science behind this internet debate that’s dividing people apart.

 

Both words have similar acoustic features and are technically both being played, but are travelling at different frequencies. ‘Yanny’ is travelling at a higher frequency whereas ‘Laurel’ is travelling at a lower frequency. That basically means that if your ears are “younger”, you’re more likely to hear ‘Yanny’ and if your ears are “older”, you’re more likely to hear ‘Laurel’. It’s just a matter of how damaged your ears are to be honest. That’s why I’m lowkey happy about this whole situation. Even though I hear ‘Yanny’ and people who hear ‘Yanny’ supposedly eat pizza with a knife and fork and bite into Kit Kats without breaking the bars off first, it means my ears aren’t as damaged as I thought they were from constantly listening to music on the highest volume. So to those who hear ‘Laurel’, s̶u̶c̶k̶ ̶m̶y

 

Although, my four year old second cousin can hear ‘Laurel’. He is lowkey an old man in a four year old body though…

Also if your sound quality is low, you’re more likely to hear ‘Yanny’.

 

Another reason is that your brain may just be focused on one frequency, despite whether your ears are damaged or not. Your brain does this to help manage and organise the multiple stimuli and sensory information entering your brain at once. It does this unconsciously, which is why you can’t choose which you can hear.

 

Which do you hear, Yanny or Laurel?

ᴬˡˢᵒ ᵇˡᵘᵉ ᵃⁿᵈ ᵇˡᵃᶜᵏ ᵒʳ ʷʰᶦᵗᵉ ᵃⁿᵈ ᵍᵒˡᵈ

 

-Shay